Why do children need books instead of mindless games?
I was watching a little girl playing a game on her iPad. She kept tapping the screen and as the game progressed, she became more and more tense. She clenched her jaw, tapped the floor with her feet and slid on her chair back and forth.
After a few minutes of anxious tapping, she cried out in frustration and threw her iPad which landed by the wall with a shattered screen.
Her mother yanked her arm angrily and shouted, "Now you've done it! That thing cost me a lot of money. What did you do that for?"
The little girl replied tapping her foot and wringing her fingers anxiously, "I was angry because couldn't get to the next level."
Playing mindless games
Although mindless video games such as shooting bubbles, pair up jewelry, or collect farm animals could be relaxing for adults, children who crave attention and want to achieve, feel about it differently.
In my experience, working as a nurse with children, playing games does not relax children. It occupies them and parents think their kids are entertained, but, instead, kids become obsessed, frustrated, and angry.
Read with your children
Read with your children when they're young and give them age appropriate books to read when they're older.
I've never seen a child throw a book in frustration and anger. When parents read with young children, the kids snuggle up to their parents and feel relaxed.
Stories trigger the imagination of children, widens their vocabulary, prompts them to be confident and compassionate, teaches them family values, and acceptance of others who are different or have disabilities.
Mindless video games can't do that.
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So you wrote a book and published it. Now What?
How does it make you feel becoming a published author.
It it all roses and rainbows from now on?
Are you going to be the center of attention?
Will you be an overnight bestselling author?
Only about one percent of the authors are lucky enough (I didn't say all of them good enough, though) to become celebrated bestsellers.
Well, the rest of us, no matter how good we are, we go through stages and keep on writing.
Read my opinion about the emotional stages that most authors go through:
The feeling of euphoria after publishing your first book
I will never forget that euphoric feeling when my first book was published. I was walking on clouds and told everyone about my book. Of course, I expected everyone I know to be happy for me and buy my book, but then reality kicked in.
Denial and Avoidance
Denial and avoidance of the fact that you didn't become an overnight bestseller
Friends and family promised to buy your book, but never did, which deeply hurt your feelings. Moreover, you sold only a few copies on publishing sites despite all the publicity you tried to stir up on social sites. You enter the stage of denial which is a defense mechanism that buffers the immediate shock and numbs your heightened emotions.
Yes, it comes as a shock that besides a few polite congratulations, you didn't get the excited reaction from people that you were expecting but you kept telling yourself, "They will read my book, they just didn't get to it yet."
Anger and "I'll show you" mood
The book is still not selling as you've hoped and as the masking effects of denial begin to wear, reality and its pain emerge, "They don't care! They will never read my book because they don't give a s*** about me!" You may aim your anger at inanimate objects, complete strangers, friends or family.
At this stage you do extensive research into book marketing and you jump in with full force.
Stage 4. Doubt
You doubt yourself and ask,
"Why doesn't it sell? Why they don't like my story? Nobody wants my book! It's my fault! I should have done more!"
The normal reaction to feelings of helplessness and vulnerability is often a need to regain control through a series of “If onlys” such as:
If only I had a better book cover made
If only I had paid for that expensive book release event
If only, if only...
Stage 5. Sadness
You get into sad-mode, feel sorry for yourself, and you need a hug
Sadness and regret predominate this type of sad mood. You're ready to give up because nobody is giving you the much needed positive feedback.
"I worked so hard and nobody appreciates my work."
A bad review deepens your sadness but a good review or kind words about your book from a friend or stranger could instantly snap you out of this sad mood.
Stage 6. Realization
The realization of not becoming an overnight bestseller
This phase is marked by withdrawal and calm. This is not a period of happiness over the release of your book. At this phase you climb down of your self-made pedestal, look around and talk to other authors. They assure you that maybe one percent of writers experience overnight success and they advice you to keep writing.
Stage 7. Acceptance
You accept the things you can't change
By now you've published a few books and you're doing your best to promote them. You keep writing because you love it and the lack of sales and lack of interest by friends and family doesn't bother you too much anymore.
Keep on writing my friends, and write stories you would like to read.
Yup, I've been through the stages too
When I first saw the #metoo hashtag, for a second I thought that maybe a happy with the story parent gave my children's book Metoo, the Annoying Littler Sister a hashtag.
As I started reading what the hashtag is about and the personal stories I've read so far had opened my eyes to this widely accepted "boys will be boys" mindset for so long that it became part of our lives.
Those who started this movement deserve a huge thank you from all of us!
When I was growing up it was kind of expected from teenage boys to grope and "tease" girls, lift their skirts or unstrap their bras and nobody considered a sexual assault. Those boys who were decent enough not to do it were called sissies or pansies.
Girls felt humiliated, uncomfortable as well as violated, but complaining to teachers in school was futile because of the age-old excuse, 'boys will be boys" was so deep-seated that girls were blamed for bringing about assaults or even rape by dressing or acting too provocatively, being too pretty, and not being modest.
Yes, it does sound like the culture where women have to hide their bodies and faces under potato-sack-like clothes so they don't excite men, but they get raped, abused, and assaulted anyway. Sick bastards always find the excuse to degrade and assault women to 'keep them in their place" of ignorance and oblivion.
When I was a young teenager, even my own mother said, 'You're a pretty girl so boys pick on you. If you were ugly they wouldn't touch you or tease you." Nice, huh?
My dad and my protective brother got furious when I told them about the humiliating incidents. Having a macho image, they reacted violently. Once a boy about 3 years older than me snapped my bikini top off at the beach and while everyone laughed, I ran for cover. I was so upset, not only because he did that to me and exposed my just budding breasts but because everyone was laughing with him. I was shaking by the time I got home with a towel wrapped around me. I told my dad what happened. He had daggers in his eyes and after I changed, he asked me to go with him and show him the boy. When we got to the beach and I pointed out my attacker, dad walked up to him, stared him down and suddenly reached over and yanked his swimming shorts so hard that it ripped apart leaving the boy naked. He yelled at the frightened kid, "Touch my daughter again and I'll feed your pitiful looking balls to my dog."
The boy was humiliated and got a little taste of his own medicine. Moreover, because he wasn't as well equipped in the midsection of his body as other boys his age, the "peanut" nickname that someone yelled out while they were laughing at him, stuck with him for life.
Being a woman, I felt sorry for the boy. Yeah, we have a huge heart and we embrace everyone who gets hurt, we're just built that way.
So, instead of complaining or looking for help or sympathy, I learned to defend myself. I used witty comments when I could, I avoided situations as much as I could, and I admit, I kicked, clawed and punched a few macho boys in my time.
Sexual assaults didn't end with elementary school, it continued at work as well and the excuse changed to "men will be men."
As a young nurse, I experienced it quite a few times. My first day started in the surgical unit with a short, chubby, bald doctor slapping my butt and he said, "Aren't you pretty? We're going to have some fun here, you'll see." I looked at the charge nurse for advice and she just rolled her eyes, "He's a harmless old goat. Don't pay attention to him." she said.
Well, I did and it bothered me a lot that every chance he got this sweaty midget with foul breath grabbed me or tried to rub against me. One time he snuck up behind me when I was doing a urinalysis at the counter. He grabbed my waist and tried to hump my thigh. I turned and threw a cupful of urine in his face. He threatened to fire me but for some reason he didn't and left me alone after that.
I support this movement with all my heart!
Hopefully by sharing stories more and more men and women will open their eyes and start changing the mindset of society for our daughters and granddaughters.
Men or women, read the stories that women are sharing by typing the hashtag #metoo in social site search. Thank you for reading mine!
"Trick or Treat is a request by children on Halloween; they pass from door to door asking for goodies and threatening to play tricks on those who refuse."
Give your Trick or Treaters candy
The first children's book I published is about a smart and compassionate girl, Sandra. Her grandma loses her hearing and Sandra suggests to her that they could communicate by using sign language. When Sandra meets a deaf boy who is ridiculed and isolated by children, she stands up to a boy who makes fun of the deaf boy's disability. Sandra convinces her friends that Thomas is smart and kind despite his disability and they happily play together.
This book is available in Spanish as well.
This bilingual story delivers a message that when we don’t take the time to listen to each other, we tend to judge others quickly before we get to know them. In this story the girls and their wheelchair bound friend, Pedro, treat each other as equals and help each other.
"An adorable story that teaches a strong message of compassion, community, and communication." ~Janet Balletta
Author of magical realism, fantasy and children's books, Publishing Coach at
Golden Box Books Publishing
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